End of Life Specialist, Eldercare Planning, Advocate, Navigator for Seniors and their Families, and Facilitator of ‘Food for Thought’ Discussion Groups:
Helping someone when they are dying, and supporting loved ones during this difficult time can be a heart-opening experience. Until you have experienced this yourself, it is hard to understand and difficult to describe.
Consulting Services Include: (Pricing to be discussed-dependant on per hour or per session)
`One-on-one work and community workshops in patient empowerment and self-advocacy, values-based advance planning for the end of life care and funerals, creating personalized after death rituals and memorials, celebrations of life before death, along with caregiver education.
`Designing workshops for death positive events whether staff development or discussions, pieces of training, awareness raising, advocacy hosted by nonprofits, institutions, community groups, and agencies.
`Memoir writing, life review, and legacy work
`Facilitator of ‘Food for Thought’ Discussion Groups– Discussion groups for 18+ about death, dying, and end of life. Group discussions focus on what members want to talk about or bring up, can be focused on a specific theme or geared towards learning skills/sharing information related to wills, advance care directives. Groups can be for younger than 18. (Members pay a fee each time or the venue offers the service).
Editing/Proofreading: (Prices vary-per word, per hour, per project)
- Academic Writing
- Books; non-fiction, professional, and fiction
- Website Content
Book Reviews: (voluntary: Provide me with a copy of your book by snail mail or email, and I will review it no charge! I have never given a negative review. I would rather bow out of writing a review than write a negative one.)
I have had many clients and extended family members die over the years, and I have found that often the individuals themselves and their families are not prepared. No discussions have occurred, no planning, no advance care medical directives written …the time to do all this is when one is alive and well or during the process of illness, not when an emergency occurs or when one is diagnosed as palliative or dying….
Using myself as an example, I am an organ donor and this is listed on my driver’s license. I have told my partner this so he is aware. The flip side to this is, I am Jewish and usually one does not desecrate the body in any way, but to me, there is no greater mitzvah than knowing once I am not of this earth, that I can still be helping someone else. My organs can be helping someone to continue to live and thrive!
I am currently participating in a Certified End of Life Specialist training that should be completed within the next few weeks.
I currently work as a social worker/case manager and group facilitator with older adults and have for the past 17 years. I have many years of experience working with older adults and their families. As I have been with many of my clients for years, I have witnessed their changes and adjustments to aging, the struggles, the falls (broken hips), loss of mobility, cognitive decline, illness, disease, placement in a residence or long-term care facility, and death, but through all this, I have also witnessed strength, determination, love, and perseverance!
End of Life Coaches can help the family engage in conversations about death that otherwise might not happen. Talking openly about what is happening to the dying individual and how he/she is feeling is very important. After, but ideally, before the individual has passed away, I can help the family and the dying individual plan the funeral and ensure his or her wishes are fulfilled.
Culture, religion, and ethnicity will need to be discussed and acknowledged as traditions, rituals, and burial customs are unique to each.
Victoria Brewster, MSW, CEOLS (In Progress), Author
Group Owner- End of Life Discussion Group for Professionals on LinkedIn
Case Manager with Older Adults- Cummings Centre
Journey’s End: Death, Dying, and the End of Life by Xlibris- July 2017
*More than 30 years ago, in a speech, John W. James, Founder of The Grief
Recovery Institute said, “Grief is the most off-limits topic for conversation
in the English-speaking Western World.”
– A reason to get discussions flowing……. to be born, we must die. No choice unless you know something I do not! 🙂 -Victoria Brewster*