Education, End-of-Life, Humanity, Social Work/Helping Profession/Mental Health

When the greatest of tragedies strikes, how do you keep going?

That is a very difficult question; Do you know the answer? I do not…because the answer will be different for each person.

What is a tragedy? Job loss, homelessness, fire, car accident, tropical storm, ice storm, a pet dying, a family member dying, abuse-whether physical, mental, emotional, sexual or financial…the list goes on and on.

For this particular article, it is about death, and unexpected death of a spouse.

Imagine all of a sudden you are a widower with 2 children. Are you prepared financially? Mentally? Emotionally? Is all the paperwork in order?

Do you have any family to help you? Do you have friends to help you?

Think of all of this as food for thought and the type of questions that need to occur BEFORE death happens; not after…


Source: How to recover from tragedy

via How to recover from tragedy — Loss, Grief, Bereavement and Life Transitions Resource Library


End-of-Life Discussion Group for Professionals on LinkedIn

A colleague of mine is an author and has written a book regarding her father’s death. She receives many requests and suggestions regarding the need for a professional ‘support’ group or a place where dialogue can occur among professionals. This is why I have created the End-of-Life Discussion Group for Professionals.

It is a group for professionals to share with one another on the topic of death, dying and end-of-life; whether from a personal perspective or professional one.

We can all learn from one another by sharing stories, articles, blog posts and research, but often what is missing is the ability to ‘vent’ the difficulties professionals face in their role in working with individuals who are dying, diagnosed with chronic health conditions or a progressive health issues or illness.

It would be wonderful if meaningful dialogue can occur and professionals whether from the field of social work, mental health, psychology, psychiatry, clergy, trauma oriented, nursing, physicians, etc are able to connect with other professionals in the helping/medical and healthcare fields.

Consider this as a group where linkage or access for professionals can occur to share and really talk. Sincere and meaningful communication has a healing affect. Respective discussions and dialogue are welcome by professionals. Anything of a derogatory, disrespectful or negative nature will be deleted.

As a professional who works with seniors/older adults, I have been exposed to many clients over the years diagnosed with chronic health conditions that progress. Some have fallen and broken a hip, collarbone or other bone. Hospitalization often occurs and some never leave the hospital and die there. Some transfer to rehabilitation, others to a long-term care facility or a few return home and die soon after. Others continue to live, but their quality of life is lacking-life is difficult. I have attended quite a few funerals.

I have been fortunate to know and to have worked with many of these clients for over 10+ years. When you develop a long-standing relationship and watch a client age, witness the frailty that occurs for some; it can be difficult. Death is inevitable and should a client want to discuss their impending departure, I am willing to listen. A professional needs to be with their client. At times a client may choose you over a family member to discuss end-of-life issues. Are you willing to go there? Do you feel comfortable to do so? If not, why not? If not, are you willing to push through the discomfort?

Education, awareness and advocacy are needed. All professionals that work with the chronically ill, those diagnosed with a progressive and degenerative illness, with seniors, in hospice or palliative care, medical settings, healthcare need to receive training and education in this area; I have found it is sorely lacking. The first awareness and education piece should come while a person is in university; while they are being taught in their respective discipline. Next, it should take place in the work environment with regular training occurring along with support offered.

Professionals can burn-out and self-care is needed. Good supervision is needed along with support groups or a support system among colleagues that allows professionals to vent, share and support one another.

I look forward to the dialogue!

Victoria Brewster, MSW


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Death of a Client or Patient

by Victoria Brewster, MSW

It is always hard as a professional to lose a client because of death. While death is a fact of life, part of the life cycle; remember to be born, one must die, it is never easy.

I work with seniors and older/adults and this is something that I face all the time as do many in the helping professions who work with seniors, patients who have chronic health conditions or diseases, patients who are palliative or in hospice. We now the reality. We know this is part of our professional life. But it is never easy.

I just found out that one on my clients died on Friday and the funeral is tomorrow.  I will attend the funeral, not because I have to, but because I want to. As much as possible I make a point to attend the funerals of my clients or one of their family members. I do it out of respect for the deceased and to offer support.

This is a personal decision. Also, if possible, I will visit a client who is in hospital, in rehabilitation or at home recovering if my schedule allows this. Otherwise I call and send a card to let them know I am thinking of them and wishing them a speedy recovery.

I know I would appreciate and want this if it was the reverse.

Treat others as you want to be treated…… it’s a good motto.