Thank you as always Sue Rosenbloom. 🙂
Death is not easy and a diagnosis of, “You are dying” is not easy, but it is reality for some.
What would you do with the time you have left? Would you say goodbye to special people in your life? Would you visit special places you always wanted to see? Do you have things you want to finish before you die?
A play about death is awesome! It makes one think. It makes one realize that life is not permanent.
Source: ‘Nobody wants to talk about death:’ Patients’ stories inspire play about palliative care – Entertainment – CBC News
I cannot imagine one of my kids dying. The pain, the loss, the anger, the realization that they are no longer here. I can imagine the grief and grieving though.
I have been exposed to death for many years and have had many extended family members die, along with clients. I am a social worker/case manager with seniors. As I have worked at the same organization for almost 18 years, I have had many clients die and clients that I have known for years.
Take a look at this article-it is a good resource/reference material.
Source: Grief, Anxiety, and Panic Attacks | Gary Roe
As a professional who has worked with Holocaust Survivors for almost 18 years as a group facilitator and case manager, I can easily say their grief is different and life lasting. Imagine suffering as they did and losing entire families, being the only survivor out of 10, 30, 60 people when you think of extended family members. Imagine returning to your town, city or country after the war and almost every Jew is gone?
This is definitely an article worth reading!
Source: The Holocaust: Bereavement takes a different course
We may have all experienced death and loss, but we can never know exactly how another feels. Each person experiences death, dying, grief, bereavement and loss in their own unique way… be careful with that expression, “I know exactly how you feel.”
Source: Why we should all stop saying “I know exactly how you feel” – ideas.ted.com
The response to grief, in our society is often motivated by well-wishers wanting us to feel better, saying things like “time heals everything”, and “maybe you just need to distract yourself until you feel better”.
“Grieving youth need age-appropriate support. They grieve differently than children or adults, and their grief may emerge differently as they continue to age and grow through stages. They need someone to answer their questions about death. Sometimes these questions might come out in chunks and not all at once. Often they are the kind of questions that parents don’t know how to answer, because they are about some of the great mysteries of life.”
Providing support and guidance to kids is very different than adults. Their questions will seem to come out of nowhere or are sporadic, but usually very direct and honest.
About 3.5 years ago, my daughter lost a friend and schoolmate who was age 6 in a tragic accident and even now she still asks questions or shares memories….the questions seem to come ‘out of the blue’ or a comment she makes comes ‘out of the blue’ and surprises me. There is no direct correlation to what we were talking about a minute before to the question or comment about her friend.
This is the difference between youth and adults with grief, grieving, and bereavement.
Source: Youth Need Grief Support Too! | Linda Hochstetler | Pulse | LinkedIn
A very good article about loss, death, grief…take a look. It lists in a very comprehensive way what caregivers and family often regret after someone has died.
Source: Regret & Loss: When Remorse Hinders Healing – Grief In Common