This is very important; discussing your post-death wishes with family and close friends. Do not wait until it is too late or crisis time. When you are very ill, in hospital or diagnosed as terminal; your thoughts might be elsewhere. Plan ahead as much as possible.
No one wants to think they will die tomorrow, but in reality we never know. Some deaths are far in the future, others could be in the near future, and still others happen when we least expect it.
I keep thinking about what I would want. I know I do not want my kids to worry about it in any way and have to come up with the money for my funeral or worry about where to bury me. I am an organ donor. My driver’s license states so and I have told my kids and my fiancé this. I would like to be cremated and they can do with my ashes as they wish. I am not a person that wants a whole lot of ‘hooplah.’ I would rather have a celebration of life before I die if possible surrounded by the ones I care about and love. I do not want a large, dramatic funeral and I especially do not want anyone to lay out thousands of dollars. I would rather that money go to charity to help others.
I am practical, low-key, and down to earth. I was raised to focus on others and not myself. Charity and volunteering along with giving back to community are important to me.
This is the message I want my kids to walk away with. You need enough money to live on, put some away, and enjoy life a little and the extra should go to charity as there are always others that have less.
Source: Talking to Family About Post Death Wishes
That is a very difficult question; Do you know the answer? I do not…because the answer will be different for each person.
What is a tragedy? Job loss, homelessness, fire, car accident, tropical storm, ice storm, a pet dying, a family member dying, abuse-whether physical, mental, emotional, sexual or financial…the list goes on and on.
For this particular article, it is about death, and unexpected death of a spouse.
Imagine all of a sudden you are a widower with 2 children. Are you prepared financially? Mentally? Emotionally? Is all the paperwork in order?
Do you have any family to help you? Do you have friends to help you?
Think of all of this as food for thought and the type of questions that need to occur BEFORE death happens; not after…
Source: How to recover from tragedy
Julie and I are very excited to announce that our book is available on the Xlibris website at: www.xlibris.com.
Journey’s End: Death, Dying, and the End of Life; 2.5 years in the making is finally available. Thank you to all who contributed to our book. We never could have done it without you…
A book that has been in the makings for almost 2.5 years……..a well thought out book that focuses on death, dying, and end of life issues with over 50 contributors mostly from Canada and the U.S.A. and a few from other countries around the world!
The book has many chapters that focus on death of spouses, parents, friends, children, friends, colleagues, clients, pets, multiple deaths, suicide, and includes resource information, training information, checklists, quotes, information on Assisted Dying around the world, Grief & Bereavement support is included, End of Life communication, planning and preparing information and more!
This is a go to book for everyone! 500 pages of information that students, professionals, lay people, and caregivers can read and use.
It has been a long journey to get to this point, but well worth it! Thank you, Julie, for your understanding when things were going on in my life-we made a great team!
The book will be printed within the next 2-3 weeks and we look forward to sharing it with you!
Julie and I are already planning book 2, so if you are interested in participating/contributing, the book will focus on death, dying, and end of life, but from cultural, ethnic, and religious perspectives.
Burial and mourning rituals with a twist as each culture, religion, and ethnicity have different and unique traditions and customs along with grief, bereavement, and end of life discussions and planning. Contact me- email@example.com.
Vikki and Julie
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