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Men or Women; Who is Friendlier?

by Victoria Brewster, MSW

I came across an article in ‘AARP, The Magazine’, October/November 2012 edition. I was visiting family, bored and saw the face of Tim Allen on the cover and became intrigued…..

The article I got caught up in was titled, “Who’s the Friendlier Gender?” on page 86.

To me, that seems pretty obvious, but I have a feeling everyone would say, it’s women. 

The article describes a scenario where the phone rang at 2 a.m., the wife answered it and it was one of her friends calling to chat. Actually, the friend described losing her job that day and needing someone to talk to. 

Not to be biased, but I do not see men calling one another, especially in the middle of the night to have a ‘heart to heart’ with a male friend. Am I wrong in that thinking? I do not believe so.

The article discussed another scenario where the husband goes on a fishing trip with his guy friends. One of the men is in the middle of a divorce. When the trip is over and the husband arrives back home, the wife asks about the male friend and the divorce. Her husband kind of looks at her blankly and states, “The subject did not come up.”

The wife is stunned and thinks to herself, “If that was my girlfriends and I, first, we never would have actually gone fishing and second, the subject would have come up right away.

There are definitely differences in men and women when it comes to friendships, what is discussed among the genders, along with many characteristics that typically belong to one gender or another. It is not a hard and fast rule, but makes life fun, rich and rewarding. What are your thoughts?