by Victoria Brewster, MSW
“50 Shades of Grey” and the other 2 novels in the series-people are getting caught up in the S & M aspect of it and ignoring the story behind the novel! The part I focused on…….
Little boy born to a prostitute, never knew his father, beaten regularly by his mother’s pimp and at the age of 4 wakes up one morning-mother lying on the floor not moving, no food in the house…. pimp arrives and sees she is dead, leaves the boy, calls the cop and flees.
Little boy, age 4 adopted by wealthy family in Seattle. Horrible nightmares, grows up getting into trouble. One day while doing yard work at one of his mother’s friends house (he is age 15 at this time) mother’s friend initiates a sexual relationship that goes on for 8 years (think Mrs. Robinson in ‘The Graduate’ and escalate it a bit, ok a lot!). S & M relationship born.
Grown-up man ends relationship at age 21 and initiates ‘relationships’ with women who have dark brown hair and are willing to be his submissive (birth mother had dark brown hair) and sign a contract detailing exactly how the Dominant and Submissive relationship will work-this occurs for 7 years and 15 different women until he meets the young woman who becomes his wife. She changed the behavior that had been set in place for 13 years.
She helps him work through his past, his nightmares and gets him to focus on a ‘real’ relationship. His being the Dominant and having women with dark hair be his submissives was a way to get his anger and emotions out re: a love/hate relationship with his birth mother.
Focus on the story within the story and perhaps the question was not inappropriate-all in the wording.
As a woman to be asked if I read, ‘Fifty Shades of Grey’ and what do I think of the story within the story? Is it possible for a child who has lived through horrific events in his young life to get better-puts a different slant on things does it not?
Perhaps the expression, ‘Do not judge a book by its cover’ fits here.
This is what I wrote in the comment section for this blog topic: http://www.socialjusticesolutions.org/2012/11/03/women-in-political-office/
Good article-but without reading the 3 books in the series-the full story is not known.
I had a discussion with my sister-in-law today about the 3 book series and the first words out of her mouth were, ‘It’s a love story.” I am glad to know I am not the only one who noticed this, but I took it a step further because I am a helping professional.